Sunanda Pushkar was a gutsy lady. She lived on her own terms. Her
life-story shows that she was no stranger to ups and downs, having survived
many tragedies in the past. Each time life served her a shock, she was ready
like a shock-absorber and emerged stronger.
I admired her all the more when I saw her life-story recently. Like
most people, even I knew about her from the IPL news headlines, her marriage to
the author & minister… and would never have known so much about her but for
the Social Media episode followed by her unfortunate death last week.
Last Friday, I was totally shocked when I saw a tweet “RIP Sunanda
Pushkar”. I was busy with my First Twitter Quiz As Curator & came to learn
of the breaking-news late, that too from Twitter where the drama of accusations
and counter-allegations had all begun some hours ago.
It was, and still is, hard to digest… Why would such a person with a
zest for life, end her own life herself?
But, speculations are rife… Autopsy report shows 27 tablets of Alprax have caused her death. They
even looked for the absent ‘suicide note’.
She certainly doesn’t deserve the
unfair allegations/judgment or getting branded the way she presently is. As my
Blogger-friend, Preethi commented, “She will be tossing and turning in her grave seeing all
these comments.”
But, why was her life cut short so abruptly? I feel she had access to confidential info...
What was that secret that triggered her murder?
I always knew the autopsy reports would indicate drug-overdose/poisoning.
However, I can never subscribe to the idea that she committed suicide because
she was severely ‘unwell/depressed/suffering/jealous’. This is a murder-mystery
where the whodunit is the moot question… Many agree that we’ll never get to
know the answer…
Sunanda was not the average Indian woman. She was self-made and successful and a wealth-creator of crores of fortune. How many Indian women are that modern and go for a third-marriage? It takes guts to do what we wish to do.
It takes courage to voice what we exactly feel in life & in Social
Media. Social Media is a part of life now. In this fake world, everyone paints
an ‘All Is Well’ picture, shoving everything under the carpet & putting
skeletons in the cupboard, though the reality is starkly different.
Sunanda Pushkar had the courage to ‘wash dirty linen in public’. Why
would a wife speak about her partner in public? That’s when she has tried
everything and feels that this is the last resort… No wife would exactly celebrate
if her husband exchanged personal messages with another woman… As she exposed
her husband and had an open spat, Sunanda was accused that she has “no respect
for her marriage.”
This is not an image that the public wants to see. Indian women are
expected to be docile and Patiwrata
and shield their husband even if the latter happens to be a wife-beater, philanderer
or has a mistress or even a second-wife, though that’s illegal! If the husband
does indulge in extra-marital relations even if they happen to be of the ‘intellectual’
kind, it is the poor wife’s fault! People justify that the wife is not ‘good
enough’ or is to be blamed for whatever the husband does, which is so unfair…
But, if the wife indulges in an ‘affair’, it’s sacrilege! Even if she
is totally pure, still her character is suspected. In the Ramayana, Maryada Purshottam Lord Shri Ram had asked
his wife, Devi Sita to prove her chastity by the Agni Pariksha. When Gods behave so, what can we say for the lesser
mortals on Earth in the KalYug?!
But, it must be noted that Sunanda had sided up with her husband and
trashed the other woman in the story, putting all the blame on the ‘Woh’ in the
‘Pati, Patni & Woh’ Twitter drama. Sunanda accused the ‘Woh’ for all her
woes & for wrecking her marriage while opining that the other woman ‘stalked’
her husband and “Men are stupid anyways.”
But, Sunanda even countered her husband’s
claim when he said that his Twitter account had been hacked. She stuck to the
truth & owned up that she had leaked those BBM messages. She stressed that
she never lies.
As per the statement released, Sunanda was very 'ill'. If yes, why was she shifted to the hotel instead of the hospital?
Why was she 'ill' in the first place?
As per the statement released, Sunanda was very 'ill'. If yes, why was she shifted to the hotel instead of the hospital?
Why was she 'ill' in the first place?
I feel the BBM
text-messages were as real as her invitations to the journalists. It is a pity
that none of them heeded to her request to meet her at her Leela Hotel-room…
In this News-Video, Rahul Kanwal speaks about Sunanda Pushkar.
Little Did She Know nor did anyone suspect that she’ll be no more the next
day to narrate her story…
Even if the Media/Police/public is all ears to hear
her now, she cannot come to defend herself as has been silenced forever…
Who bruised & killed her?
Why did Sunanda have to pay with her life?
Being
forthright, earnest and honest kills?
Will the truth triumph?
Will the guilty be brought to book for cutting short a beautiful life?
Will there be justice for Sunanda Pushkar?
Many questions remain unanswered…
This Post is not 'paid' or written under threat... All these are my own independent ideas & personal views from what I have seen and read in the past week...
